Wednesday, November 5, 2014

I always knew I was a Charlotte.


Though I did have a Carrie moment when I dyed my hair dark like her in the 1st movie. I am a huge Sex and the City fan. I have all of the seasons; have both the movies and praying for a third (I'm hoping the rumors are true!)
So I was watching the 1st movie on TV by chance, decompressing from the previous 48 hours and began to realize that Charlotte was one of the 1st characters to bring infertility to TV, to a young audience. Even though it’s Hollywood, her story brought a happy ending in two ways. She adopted a girl at the end of the TV series, and then she got pregnant in the 1st movie. It just made me smile. I hope to have a Hollywood ending.

Seth and I had our first consult apt with the doctor on Oct 30th. When he came to pick me up, I remember looking down at my hands and I was shaking all over as I reached down to the door handle to get in. This was it!! 10+ years in the making, it was all coming together at this moment.

On the way there, I had to practice breathing techniques to slow my heart rate and blood pressure down. From the moment we walked in the doors, it was an overwhelmingly positive experience. To the calm colors in the office, coffee and tea to your left, smiling faces to your right. Everyone was so nice, and gentle. Even though we had the last appointment of the day, the doctor really took her time to explain everything out, talk to us as if we were good friends at the dinner table. Explained all of the testing I would have to do, and the ONE test Seth would do. We talked out possible reasoning’s behind why I haven’t been able to get pregnant, and she reassured me that at every turn that she would do everything possible to help me have a baby. Then, it’s like a flip switched and we were in hyper mood.  We briefly spoke to the nurse that would be handling my case, and was able to make an apt for the next morning to start my 1st round of test’s. Went over the loads of paperwork given to me, and I tried to keep up. The nurse who has a lovely New York or Boston (?) accent was amazing, she saw the look in my face and slowed down and told me she would be with me every step of the way, told me that she wouldn’t leave me feeling confused or neglected. God put me in the right hands for sure!
As we left my head was spinning. There was so much information to take in and 1,000 thoughts flowing through my brain. Over dinner (screw the diet; I wanted a grilled cheese sandwich!) Seth and I talked and talked and talked about all of the outcomes, the situations that we might cross (finances, jobs, insurance coverage). I began to get my running shoes on because I wanted to run and cross the finish line.  I wanted to have a baby yesterday, I felt like I have waited long enough and that I deserved to have one.  I heard a really good quote this morning; this will be more like a marathon than a 5k. There will be lots of training and miles ahead of me. I'm rushing to get all of these testing done in a week and I need to remember to keep my eyes wide open. This may not be a smooth process. I have to remember that there might be sadness, challenges and unexpected trials and tribulations. Another show that comes to mind is Guliana and Bill and the struggles they shared. It gave me some insight on what I might have to go through. They too ended up with a baby, but went through huge disappointments to get there. On the other hand I could end up with multiples.  My husband has been really good at bringing me back down to earth, back to reality. I need to slow down and really take time with each step. I want to know what’s happening with these tests and understand what they mean. And I have to remember, God has his own timing and story ending for me and I have to have faith in that.
 
My 1st round of testing included a Baseline Sonogram, which the measure the reproductive organs and uterine lining to see if everything measure’s normal. Which mine did except for the thin uterine that the doctor suspected I had.(Another symptom of PCOS). The blood work was just a baseline blood work to check my Thyroid levels (which are not normal, so I have to make sure I bring this up with my endocrinologist), and other normal levels, like liver function, vitamin levels, etc.  With the exception of the thyroid, every thing is normal, which is a good thing (but also brings me back to the question of why haven’t I been able to have a baby? – But I only focus on that for a moment before moving on. I am doing everything in my power right now, and that’s all I can do).

So then my 2nd round of testing was going to an outside lab to give away gallons of blood. At least that’s what it felt like. It was more like a pint. I think I counted 8 tubes? I’m hoping to have the results within the week. This was the nitty gritty blood work where they are testing everything. When I handed the paper with all the check marks, the nurse looked at me with a "wow!" look. One of the symptoms with PCOS is having more testosterone than the average female. And the extra testosterone suppresses one of the elements that help develop the follicle that later becomes an egg. This is the reason I believe behind my infertility. I never ovulate an egg. It never gets released and stays in my uteri and becomes a cyst (hence, poly cystic=many cysts).
 
This Friday will be my third round of tests and will be a saline sonogram, and more blood work (I stopped asked “for what” at this point and do what they tell me). This is where they will flow a saline fluid through the uterine cavity to see if there is any blockages, or polyps (which would need to be removed), anything that would compromise development of an embryo. I’m pretty anxious to go through this. This might be a big result as to what we will end up doing for a treatment plan.

During our appointment the doctor and I briefly discussed what sort of treatment we’ll be looking at. Seth and I are both doing a genetics’ test. Meaning they’ll take our blood and send it off to test for 113 genes of things like sickle cell, autism, etc. If Seth and I both come back as carriers for something, we go straight to IVF b/c they can take that diseased gene out of the embryo before implanting it. Isn’t that amazing? I don’t think we’ll have this issue (right Mom??).  So in that case, we’ll start off with the medications. Drugs that would induce egg development. I don’t know all of the details yet, so I’ll update you as I learn about the process.

Seth has to do his part, and also get a small blood test done. Then we meet with the doctor to go over what our plan of attack will be. I appreciate all of the kind words, prayers and positive thoughts and energy sent my way. God has helped me moved mountains for me already; I am learning to have faith for one more mountain.

Stay tuned for more! And remember, don’t be afraid to talk about this with your person who might be going through this too. I love to answer questions and have this be more like a conversation than to have someone be afraid to bring up babies b/c they think I would get upset. Your support and encouragement means the world.